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How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone Fast

Oh the friend zone!! So beautiful to have a close friend, but yet so darn aggravating to have just a great friend. Do you have your eyes on somebody? They answer your calls? Hangout with you, but they see you only as a “friend”? Here is how to how to get out of the friend zone fast…

This has to be one of the most annoying zones to be in and I will share with you a few tips on how to get out of that zone.

I remember when I was in high school, I was the QUEEN of the Friend Zone. I had so many guy friends, more than guys themselves! I hung out with them, but no more than that. I was never the girl they wanted to date. As I got older I got smarter and well looking better also helped, but I learned a few things I could do to change it from just a friend to someone they would like to date.

Do Not Make Them The Priority
Biggest mistake we can make is make them think your world reveolves around them. Do you find yourself saying “YES” to everything they want to do or say? If you are catering your weekends, phone calls and plans to them then… STOP IT! Next time tell them your busy or a simple “I’m not sure about that”.
Make More Friends
Yeah this one is easy… just make more friends. Whether it is new ones or the same ones you have, make sure to dedicate some time to them too and not just your lover Friend.

Look A Little Different
If this friend always sees you dressed a certain way maybe you are a little comfortable with them so you don’t dress your best or maybe your hair doesn’t look as great as it could… change it up! Next time you know you will see them make sure you make the extra effort to get the “Damn you lookin sexyyy”

The interesting thing is that once you find that special someone… it is the FRIENDSHIP built that keeps the two of you together for a lifetime! Love+Friendship is the winning combo!

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Just Be Friends

Don’t date, just be friends. Wow a simple sentence with such big impact. A few days ago I posed a question to many of you and shared my own personal experience about dating someone who was my friend originally and how great of a surprise it was. I asked for you guys to share your experiences or tips and if any of you had dated any of your friends. Well one of my readers and friends commented and suggested “Don’t date, just be friends. People who date break up. People who are friends stay together.”

Now you all know I have been dating for quite some time and sharing my experiences with you and that little sentence well I couldn’t have put it any better!

You see what I have learned in dating is the same things I have learned while building my businesses. If you pursue your business as simply one person or company trying to sell another person or company… then all you get is mediocre results. After the tomato selling business (hahaha that was only something I did for extra cash for candy) I really got into business at age 17 and as much as I would have hoped to know and think I was sooooo cool, I really had no clue. I was those people “selling” and not really establishing a relationship with the people I wanted to buy my stuff. So wha-la! No one bought. I had no business. I was broke. And couldn’t figure out why I worked so hard, but could not increase my sales.

Many of you may have experienced similar outcomes as you are building your business or in your dating life. Your weekends are packed. My dating calendar used to look something like this:
Friday drinks after work with Guy A
Followed by late Dinner with Guy B
then Saturday Lunch or workout date with Guy C
Meet for dinner & drinks with Guy D

Literally!
Yours too??!!!

Well first of all if your single and your weekends don’t look like this and you want to date, then honey we have to work on fundamentals first!

Ummm check your smile, breath, hair, and clothes.

But back to my point and my friends suggestion of “Don’t date, be friends”, If you are simply looking to fill your time and have someone to spend it with… like you enjoy the company of others, or just as they say in Jersey Shore “DTF” (Down To F*&%) then the activity of “Dating” can getcha just that.
What turns it around for most in the “dating” world if you want companionship more than just “company” ( and people there is a huge difference) is when you date to become “friends”. Like you sincerely want to get to know this person and you continue to date because there is commonality, just like you would continue to talk to the people who are your friends.

The crucial element that seals the deal or makes it magical is:
How much sexual energy is shared between you and this “friend”?

The addition of the element is what makes the connection so great! And it is NOT something you can create, it’s just kinda there or not.

So dating just to fill your time or need the company? Then go for it! Meet tons of people. Enjoy it.

If your looking for a little more consider dating as “making friends”. Look to date people you share things in common with and are attracted to. Just like building a business. You want to simply make one-time sales then keep “selling”, but if you want long term, repeat business and… REFERRALS then establishing a relationship of trust & commonality with the people and business you approach with your products or services.

To great friendships, relationships and business success!

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Dating Your Friend

In dating, sometimes what you are looking for can be right under your nose. In this post I expose the often ignored dating market that if considered can turn up surprising results. Dating your friend is one of the best things that can happen to you.

As many of you know I have been intrigued by business and capitalism since a young age. I began my first business venture at about the age of 7 when my older brother and I used to go around our neighborhood selling strawberries and tomatoes to all our neighbors, hey what can I say I was I’ve had the entrepreneur blood in me since birth! So “business philosophies” have always been present in my head.

Funny to even admit that it relates to my dating life and yes people, I do relate all my business strategies to dating.

So recently I “met” someone, I use quotations because I really didn’t “meet” them, I have known them for many years, but nonetheless the meeting this time was significantly different.

If you have ever been in any type of “sales” business or career, you know this quote all too well “Ratios, Ratios, Ratios” meaning, in order to be successful you have to keep on doing the same activity over and over again until you “strike” and succeed at whatever it is you are doing.

And in sales and business development, the same is true that you are more likely to find success from a “repeat” client or pitching someone you have at one point already “pitched” than a business or person that is encountering you for the first time.

Well recently that has proven to be the case in my dating life. The last few years I have spent living in both the East and West coast and meeting tons of men. I’ve enjoyed the casual meet ups, the dinners, the parties, the spontaneous dates, the conversations, etc… everything that is involved in dating! Everyone that I have dated however has been “new clients” meaning new people that I did not know from before.

Most recently that changed and I was open to date an old friend of mine. It was not planned; it just kind of happened and what I learned from the experience drew me to share an often ignored venue that most of you singles who are out dating completely neglect…. The venue is………….. YOUR FRIENDS or FRIENDS of FRIENDS!!!

I know… I know what you might be thinking “The people who have seen me all crusty eyed from last years ski trip? The People who know all my dirty lil secrets? The ones who you may have had a burping contest with or scream at the top of your lunges with? Them? Date my friends??

Some of you may argue the fact that you “don’t want to mess up the friendship” and I agree with that too. There should be careful strategic actions that must be in place, but from my observations I can state that the positives most definitely out weigh the negatives and here are reasons why.

1. They Already Know You.

Your argument maybe that they know you too much, but bottom line is they know you so if there is interest you have to know it is genuine because they know your good, bad and quirky side! Surprises about each others personality is limited… well of course, there ARE something’s only you would disclose with someone you are intimate with… so let that be the surprises!

2. You Share A Lot In Common

Last year, you went skiing together, same concert, and possibly practiced the same sport. You get along for a reason. Commonality is a very important trait in a successful relationship. Maybe you and this person went thru similar life experiences. Faced similar ups and downs in life. Having shared experiences means endless conversational pieces. And think about it, if you are there friend there is obviously similar interest in mind.

3. Skip The Awkwardness Phase

Thank God! Avoid the “What is your favorite color? Or Food questions” Get right to the good stuff! You may experience a different type awkward feeling. Like the kind you get when you first hold this “friends” hand or share a first kiss. You’d ask yourself “How the hell did this happen??” But this feeling can be exciting, if our mentality is towards it is positive rather than negative.

4. There Is Trust

I can’t really explain this, but the fact this individual might have crashed over one night at your house or a summer at your parents place and they didn’t steal anything or make a cheap move on you… I think that’s fair to say there is trust! Or that they do know some of your “shameful” stories and they didn’t blast your gossip. You share a certain level of comfort with this person, feeling safe around them.

5. His/Her Friends Already Like You.

Vacations, weekends, parties, hangouts are just that much more comfortable…. Well at least a bit until your friends realize the two of you actually hooked up! Hahaha, but this helps stir up some interesting conversations. Sometimes meeting the person you are dating friends can be nerve racking so save yourself the trouble!

I also want to add and put out a disclaimer that as “lovey dovey” as this may seem or “innocent” like “ahhh date your friend” don’t get me wrong if there isn’t any sexual chemistry of lust it is not going to be fun or successful, sexual chemistry is a must!

The point of this post is sometimes what you’re looking for can be just under your nose. Just as you would do when working on growing any business or professional venture you have, sometimes the people, businesses and connections you have done prior business with or have establish a relationship with are the ones whom will come thru when it most matters.

Cheers! To extraordinary friendships and endless relationships.
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How To Use Astrology To Have Better Results In Your Life

Hello Friends! Its a new month. That means new opportunities, new ideas, new projects to begin and time to leave the past, in the past. I will share with you How To Use Astrology To Have Better Results In Your Life.
I can say i have always been a person who is open to “New Ideas” thank God i wasn’t raised by parents who forced their beliefs on me and allowed me to discover them on my own.

This way of looking at life allowed me to meet amazing people, discover new ideas and see the world and my life in a different perspective.
One of the things I have really taken in as a part of my life is Astrology and the power of it.
Now most people see Astrology or shall i say confuse astrology as the thing you read on Sunday newspaper and it says “you’ll have a great day today if you twirl your hair and jump up and down”
Noooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That is NOT what astrology stems from. In fact don’t let me educate you because frankly I don’t want to. You do it yourself. I am simply sharing with you something I myself “studied” and found for myself and my life to hold some truth, relevance and it became very helpful for me.
In fact, I am the kind of person who will NOT sign a contract on days that are not in my favor or start a new project unless its a new moon. I know you think I am a weirdo, and maybe I am. I am not denying it. But I will say I live my life quite happy and content and it has never proven to me to “hurt” me in fact, the reason I keep doing this is because I always get exactly what I want.

Bottom line is this, astrology is simply a science. An empirical study of our exisitance as human beings living on this cool thing called Earth. I believe their is a lot more too it and astrology has helped me find a deeper understanding of it.
I specifically enjoy this website and Susan Miller. For years I have been reading her monthly forecast and let’s just say there is a reason I have been viewing it. I hope that it helps you with insight as much as it has for me 🙂

Read yours by clicking on the link below and drop me a comment and let me know what you think if it has any relevance to your current life. If it does, share it with your friends as someone once shared it with me 🙂
Enjoy!

http://www.astrologyzone.com/forecasts/