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5 Big Butt Etiquette Rules For Women

Have a KaDunkADunk? No problem! Here are 5 big butt etiquette rules to follow. Learn to love your big ol’butt. In many countries and cultures it is a blessing, so learn to appreciate it. However having a big butt does have its issues so read on to learn the 5 big butt etiquette rules to follow.  
5.) Avoid White Or Grey Leggings/Spandex
Take note, leggings mark dangerous turf and grey and white are natural expanders and you don’t know how many times I have seen women with these things plastered on like they were painted on.This then exposes all the cottage cheese associated with the big butt and well ladies not a nice thing to see or to show to a man. Also, shirts that fall below the crotch are necessary with leggings too -TRUST.  Depending on your tolerance for public panting or display of your big booty, you may want to consider a cease and desist.

4.) Play It Cool During Big Butt Anthems
This is a hard one, I know. Now I would never recommend anyone deprive themselves the great satisfaction of delivering a proper  stanky leg rendition. However, I would advise  practicing personal reservation during a$$ anthem music. Not as a public safety measure nor as a preventative measure to deactivate ignorance (afterall, a$$ anthems summon it) but just because its horribly cliche.  Don’t be the first, second, or third chick to take it low and sweep the floor. I say, be the fifth… Yea fifth is good.

3.) Low-Cut Jeans Are Not Your Friends
I got to be real, crack IS whack! You may not like this rule especially since so many of the latest trends involve the low cut skinny jeans,but you gotta deal with it chick, you can’t participate in this fashion trend. Simply because no matter what notch you fasten that belt to, your booty crack will be exposed1 Go for high-waisters, they flesh out your shape and are much more flattering.

2.) Mini Skirts and Shorts

It may be hot and they may look good on others, but if you have a big butt it is just to risky to expose the very likely cottage cheese sections of your butt and thighs. Opt for longer skirts or if you decide to wear a mini, make sure it is only in the fall when you can wear some nice opaque tights to hold it all in.

1.) Save the Best for Last
True story. If you do it from the back as kickoff, you might not make it to the end of the show. He will enjoy it so much it will make you wonder when it will end and when he can get back to pleasing you…but sadly it never happens. So save the best for last and make him work for it!

Big butt or small butt we all as ladies share many things in common despite how we were shaped in the world of dating and not only do I know this, but I also understand the physiology behind every woman, I know What Every Man Wants.

I was single for many years, but never alone. I always managed to have a date and being able to get one seemed to come easy, but it wasn’t always like that. I have spent many years learning from experts and thru trial and error of my own dating life learning and discovering the things all men love in women. I have now mastered the art of conversation and how to date more great men and for the men I know what women like. SO if you haven’t connected with me already go ahead and subscribe to my newsletter at www.adrianagomez.com. Look forward to connecting with you!

 

 

Love & Marriage, My Thoughts, People Skills

How To Get Out Of A Bad Date

How To Get Out Of A Bad Date

 

 

Been on a bad date? If you have been dating, I am sure you have! In this video I show you how to get out of a bad date. So next time you do not have to waste your time with a dochebag!  Watch the video to learn exactly what you need to do so you know how to get out of a bad date. For better dates keep reading my blog for dating tips and advice so you can avoid the bad ones! Enjoy!

 

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My Thoughts, People Skills, Personal Growth

Why People Block You On Facebook

If Facebook is supposed to connect you, why do people get on it and then block you? In a time where technology has grown to be such a large part of our lives and well when it comes to dating, it has been a huge resource to engage and contact millions. So why do people have these accounts to make their lives public and easily accessible to people, only to block others? Why People Block You on Facebook?

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Well one obvious reason is that you are creepy maybe a registered sex offender, you are harassing them, or you are just annoying. In which I agree and ALSO would and have block several people.

Now what is the explanation for the other blocking??

Well I have my fair share of both blocking people and being blocked and this is what I have narrowed it down too:

1. You Know Wayyyyy Too Much Crap About Them

Oh let me tell you, if something makes someone hide more it is them finding out that “You Know” That you know the truth. The truth about them, their past, there dirty little secrets and unethical ways…  I just wish that the same people who “hide” or “block” you would realize that their little lives revolve around hanging around the same people, same places and same little town. Guess what? The world is small and the truth always, always comes out.

 

2. Being The “Ex- Girlfriend/Boyfriend”

Unless you are stuck in middle school, we all have had and been in a relationship. For the people out there who think the first guy you date is the one you marry I have news for you: It isn’t always like that. If it is good for you. If not guess what?? You will be at one point or another the “EX” and have “exes”.   If you fall in the “Crazy ex category” then you deserve to be blocked and I would block you too! I would give you the “Outta my life button!”  And if you have been this crazy ex bf/gf realize your  ex doesn’t want to hear from you or have you constantly still nagging them…isnt that why he left you?? And then there is the time when the “EX” blocks you the new guy/girl. I can understand this especially when the new guy/girl witnessed some of the crazy ex pyscho activity… So to all the girls who have been dumped, don’t be the crazy pyscho girl then you will never have to block the people who witnessed your outbreak. I know its embarrassing to know that person witness your hoopla so just don’t do it anymore.

3. You Are Annoying

I admit I may be on peoples Block list for this… I write a lot about dating, relationships umm possibly some things that may offend people. It is ok I deal with it. So yeah, if you talk a lot about things people just have NO interest in such as ummm you constantly posting about:

– Your relationship and how much it sucks…

– How sooooo many guys/girls gawk at you and your just Gods Gift to women/men… (why are you still single then??)

– How terrible your life is…

– How fairytale of a life you have…

– How everyone should buy your MLM product…

This my friends causes you to be blocked….. again I admit for the non dating, relationship having or wanting folks, I’m just not that interesting and can be annoying. 🙂 It is ok, I still love ya!

Lastly, you block someone because you just don’t like them and want nothing to do with them. To you, they don’t exist. Sounds harsh, but its the truth and sometimes in life you have to learn how to make those type of decisions to “cut the fat” out of your life and keep only the meaningful relationships. God knows I have done a lot of bothering of bad relationships out of my life recently and you know what… it feels sooooo good! I invite you to get weak, negative, drag-ya-down-do-nothing-positive-to-your-life relationships out of your life. 

Learn to attract then build great relationships you may need a little help. Check out some of the services I offer (see you may block me after this one) check it out here http://adrianagomez.com/dating-coach-services/

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Love & Marriage, My Thoughts, Relationships

The 5 Love Languages

If you have ever wondered why your girlfriend never seems to be content or happy when you by her gifts? Or maybe that he never seems to care that you do errands around the house? We all have our own little way of showing how we love others and how we like to be loved. If you believe that we are all created equal and can be treated the exact same way then you must also believe in the tooth fairy and should not ignore this post. Several years ago I came across this book and I learned about this theory of the The 5 love languages it really changed my life and I give it credit for helping me create and maintain a loving, respectful & abundant relationship with my fiance, but I would be naive to think what to me feels like a fairytale relationship, would stay this way on it’s own without some bumps in the road. So the 5 love languages are an important to understand. Here is a quick video to help you visually see and understand the 5 love languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, Physical Touch.

Relationships and people are ever growing beings! We are like plants. We will have our times of full bloom and our times when our flowers die and a time when the soil we are planted in needs time to replenish its nutrients in the soil…to bloom again. During this metamorphosis, we as the girlfriends, wives, husbands, etc . of someone can be ugly, irrational, unappreciative people. So are ALL relationships that go through these withering times bound to fail? How then do you explain those that rebound from these times and grow stronger together?
In my opinion bad relationships boil down to two people not chemically connected (which means they wouldn’t be dating too long) and for those in a long relationship turning sour it is most likely two people speaking the incorrect love language to one another and a lot of misunderstanding. If you have ever felt unappreciative, not loved, respected and not wanted it may not always be that your partner really doesn’t love you he or she is simply speaking to you in the wrong love language.

I cannot stress to you enough if you are in a relationship to familarize yourself with this theory and understand the 5 languages of love. So what is your love language? Stop hesitating and click here to take the test and learn more!http://www.5lovelanguages.com

Share with us what Love Language you are! Leave me a comment below or connect with me on FACEBOOK

Love & Marriage

How Hobbies Help Your Relationship

How Can Hobbies Help? Can they help you personally? At work? In a relationship? I think all of the above. Here I discuss how hobbies can really help you have a successful and happy relationship. Wether it is cooking, a sport, pastime, something anything can really help keep you and your significant other keep that relationship love steaming.

When my fiance wanted to get a dog, I supported the idea. I had not had a dog since I was a little kid and even then I was not the one taking care of it, so I really did not know what to expect. Well let me tell ya, I love that dog! And we even got a second dog! I am sharing this story because our dogs have become in a way a hobby or a pastime for us. We enjoy doing activities for our pups together. Many times we may think hobbies mean spending money, but that does not have to be the case. Meet Buzz and Bella… our awesome Boston Terriers!

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One great thing we enjoy doing together and it has become another hobby of ours is cooking. What better thing than to prepare a meal together to then be able to enjoy it together. I am not a natural at cooking. I admit being pretty terrible. The last couple of months of cooking together has really made me a better cook and has opened me up to a new hobby.

 

We LOVE riding bikes, snowboarding, adventure stuff of all types together too!

 

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What if you do not live together? Not a problem! None of what I have mentioned needs to be done with someone you live. If you only see each other on weekends that is great and very doable.
So stop making excuses ad find something you both enjoy and make a point to do it together and become better at it.

Love & Marriage, People Skills, Relationships

How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone Fast

Oh the friend zone!! So beautiful to have a close friend, but yet so darn aggravating to have just a great friend. Do you have your eyes on somebody? They answer your calls? Hangout with you, but they see you only as a “friend”? Here is how to how to get out of the friend zone fast…

This has to be one of the most annoying zones to be in and I will share with you a few tips on how to get out of that zone.

I remember when I was in high school, I was the QUEEN of the Friend Zone. I had so many guy friends, more than guys themselves! I hung out with them, but no more than that. I was never the girl they wanted to date. As I got older I got smarter and well looking better also helped, but I learned a few things I could do to change it from just a friend to someone they would like to date.

Do Not Make Them The Priority
Biggest mistake we can make is make them think your world reveolves around them. Do you find yourself saying “YES” to everything they want to do or say? If you are catering your weekends, phone calls and plans to them then… STOP IT! Next time tell them your busy or a simple “I’m not sure about that”.
Make More Friends
Yeah this one is easy… just make more friends. Whether it is new ones or the same ones you have, make sure to dedicate some time to them too and not just your lover Friend.

Look A Little Different
If this friend always sees you dressed a certain way maybe you are a little comfortable with them so you don’t dress your best or maybe your hair doesn’t look as great as it could… change it up! Next time you know you will see them make sure you make the extra effort to get the “Damn you lookin sexyyy”

The interesting thing is that once you find that special someone… it is the FRIENDSHIP built that keeps the two of you together for a lifetime! Love+Friendship is the winning combo!

My Thoughts, People Skills, Personal Growth

New Years Resolution NOT To Bother Making

To Finally Find A Boyfriend/Girlfriend

New years is not a symbolic time for you to reflect on how long you have been single and how this year you will find “the one” Get over it! As much as I speak about dating and how to date more people, I never, speak about rushing into things or in that you need to be in a relationship. In Spanish we have a saying “Mas vale sola que mal acompanada” means “it is better to be alone that to be in bad company” and through my time as a single, when I was actively dating I always kept that little phrase in mind. In fact, too often the issue with my most troubled clients is that they are Mr. and Miss Desperate. They want to so badly make the next person that looks at them their boyfriend or girlfriend that they scare that person away. So instead of resolving to get into a relationship, why not improve your own personal self confidence and become a better networker and conversationalist so you can meet more people naturally and the right one for you will show up this year or next or…

What are you waiting for? Check out Uncensored Dating to get your hands on some advance techniques sure to help.

My Thoughts, People Skills

Holiday Party Don’ts

Holiday season is here! If you haven’t already been to a party, I am sure you will be attending one in these next few days.How to make sure you know what the top holiday party don’ts are better keep reading!

I myself have made my rounds and many of my friends have also.
There is a “rule” or unspoken “guidelines” to follow at these things, but do people ever follow them??
Its inivetable when you bring Coworkers+Open Bar+ Food+Gossip= Memories to be made and actions to be regretted 🙂

Here is my TOP 10 Holiday Party Don’ts

Don’t:
1. Dress for Success Not SEX

Dress classy. Leave the nightclub gear, fishnets, shiny dress shirts in your closet!

2. Get Sloppy Drunk

Ok, I will admit it. One of the first holiday parties I went to I was guilty of this. I drank a little too much as I was walking up to go use the restroom I wasn’t the smoothest walker and I slipped, but no worries I quickly got up, adjusted myself, and finished my “dismount” like an Olympic champion. 🙂
If you start to slur your words, just stop.

3. Play Footsies With Your Coworker

Remember this is the person you will be seeing the morning after and for the next 365 mornings +. And if you played footsie with the wrong one, you deal with the office crush for days to come.

4. Spill Your Drama, Gossip, Annoyance, etc

Ok so maybe you aren’t very fawn of working there or you feel you should be getting paid more or the office is a total wreck. Don’t bring it up now!!?? Enjoy the party and the holiday season and bring it up in a formal matter at the start of the new year. Holiday party don’ts are a major no-no so again don’t use this time to do any of those holiday party don’ts.

5. Dance…
Chances are you will look like a jackass and women, we usually get a little to sexual so your better off not gettin jiggy wit it.

6. Wear Holiday Themed Outfits

Umm thats the other party the “Ugly Holiday Sweater Party” not tonight.

7. Don’t Bring a “Date”

If your broke I know times can be rough, but common this is NOT an event held for YOUR benefit and you being a cheap ass and bringing a date. Bring them somewhere else, not here.

8.Treat The Party Like A Singles Bar

The cute girl or guy you are interested in is probably someones babymomma or daddy. Check for rings before you start chatting it up and expecting you scored.

9. Eat To Much

This one is hard for me since I am such a foodie, but remember people observe you when you eat and you don’t want to look like a hoarder grabbing way to much of your share of the food.

10. Oh yeah remember its a WORK HOLIDAY PARTY….

Everything said or done WILL be used against you at the office….. in due time.. 🙂

Enjoy and Happy Holidays to ALL!

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Love & Marriage, People Skills, Relationships

Dating Your Friend

In dating, sometimes what you are looking for can be right under your nose. In this post I expose the often ignored dating market that if considered can turn up surprising results. Dating your friend is one of the best things that can happen to you.

As many of you know I have been intrigued by business and capitalism since a young age. I began my first business venture at about the age of 7 when my older brother and I used to go around our neighborhood selling strawberries and tomatoes to all our neighbors, hey what can I say I was I’ve had the entrepreneur blood in me since birth! So “business philosophies” have always been present in my head.

Funny to even admit that it relates to my dating life and yes people, I do relate all my business strategies to dating.

So recently I “met” someone, I use quotations because I really didn’t “meet” them, I have known them for many years, but nonetheless the meeting this time was significantly different.

If you have ever been in any type of “sales” business or career, you know this quote all too well “Ratios, Ratios, Ratios” meaning, in order to be successful you have to keep on doing the same activity over and over again until you “strike” and succeed at whatever it is you are doing.

And in sales and business development, the same is true that you are more likely to find success from a “repeat” client or pitching someone you have at one point already “pitched” than a business or person that is encountering you for the first time.

Well recently that has proven to be the case in my dating life. The last few years I have spent living in both the East and West coast and meeting tons of men. I’ve enjoyed the casual meet ups, the dinners, the parties, the spontaneous dates, the conversations, etc… everything that is involved in dating! Everyone that I have dated however has been “new clients” meaning new people that I did not know from before.

Most recently that changed and I was open to date an old friend of mine. It was not planned; it just kind of happened and what I learned from the experience drew me to share an often ignored venue that most of you singles who are out dating completely neglect…. The venue is………….. YOUR FRIENDS or FRIENDS of FRIENDS!!!

I know… I know what you might be thinking “The people who have seen me all crusty eyed from last years ski trip? The People who know all my dirty lil secrets? The ones who you may have had a burping contest with or scream at the top of your lunges with? Them? Date my friends??

Some of you may argue the fact that you “don’t want to mess up the friendship” and I agree with that too. There should be careful strategic actions that must be in place, but from my observations I can state that the positives most definitely out weigh the negatives and here are reasons why.

1. They Already Know You.

Your argument maybe that they know you too much, but bottom line is they know you so if there is interest you have to know it is genuine because they know your good, bad and quirky side! Surprises about each others personality is limited… well of course, there ARE something’s only you would disclose with someone you are intimate with… so let that be the surprises!

2. You Share A Lot In Common

Last year, you went skiing together, same concert, and possibly practiced the same sport. You get along for a reason. Commonality is a very important trait in a successful relationship. Maybe you and this person went thru similar life experiences. Faced similar ups and downs in life. Having shared experiences means endless conversational pieces. And think about it, if you are there friend there is obviously similar interest in mind.

3. Skip The Awkwardness Phase

Thank God! Avoid the “What is your favorite color? Or Food questions” Get right to the good stuff! You may experience a different type awkward feeling. Like the kind you get when you first hold this “friends” hand or share a first kiss. You’d ask yourself “How the hell did this happen??” But this feeling can be exciting, if our mentality is towards it is positive rather than negative.

4. There Is Trust

I can’t really explain this, but the fact this individual might have crashed over one night at your house or a summer at your parents place and they didn’t steal anything or make a cheap move on you… I think that’s fair to say there is trust! Or that they do know some of your “shameful” stories and they didn’t blast your gossip. You share a certain level of comfort with this person, feeling safe around them.

5. His/Her Friends Already Like You.

Vacations, weekends, parties, hangouts are just that much more comfortable…. Well at least a bit until your friends realize the two of you actually hooked up! Hahaha, but this helps stir up some interesting conversations. Sometimes meeting the person you are dating friends can be nerve racking so save yourself the trouble!

I also want to add and put out a disclaimer that as “lovey dovey” as this may seem or “innocent” like “ahhh date your friend” don’t get me wrong if there isn’t any sexual chemistry of lust it is not going to be fun or successful, sexual chemistry is a must!

The point of this post is sometimes what you’re looking for can be just under your nose. Just as you would do when working on growing any business or professional venture you have, sometimes the people, businesses and connections you have done prior business with or have establish a relationship with are the ones whom will come thru when it most matters.

Cheers! To extraordinary friendships and endless relationships.
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My Thoughts, People Skills

What I Learned As an Undercover Guest At A Singles Event

…..That 99.9% of the men in attendance are dooshbags and every woman there is so un confident and desperate.
That is all for this post.

Ok you all know me too well that I usually have more to say. So I headed to a local lounge where I was throwing a Jersey Shore preimer viewing party (DISCLAIMER: I watch the Jersey Shore because I get a kick out of how funny real life can be and I am amazed and like to learn to see how this show attracts so many viewers making it a highly grossing TV show)
So upon my arrival of the venue to my surprise there was a singles night event going on. I thought “how interesting”. I took myself to the side found a seat and completely batted one after the other lame pick up line from guys who were there attending the event. Clearly I did not have a name tag and well my outfit choice for the night of black long sleeve tee and jeans clearly wasn’t in “prowling mode” wearing sexy clothing.
Anyway so I just sat at the bar and listened. I listened some more. And I listened again.
I listened to all the guys in their give their “play by play” on what they would have done if their girl gave them their number.
If the girl went home with them that night.
If the girl had been interested.
It was disgusting and it was quite sad how these men thought they had so much game, but they were… alone.

lesson learned is:

1. Be more picky as to how and where you go to meet singles. When you throw 100 people in a room it starts feeling like black Friday. Like everything is limited and on sale and you have to rush to just grab and pick up something.

I am not discouraging attending singles events or meeting other singles, but I would suggest find another mode where you can StrikeUp a conversation with someone more in a one-on-one setting.

#2. Ladies you can do better. Have a better strategy than just submit yourself to an event where the guy to girl ratio is 10:2

#3. When you settle for anything, you get nothing.